Change Your Personal History with NLP

Bad things happen to all of us at some point in our lives.  Often we are able to shrug these things off, and they don't bother us for very long.  However sometimes these things affect our lives in a negative way for a longer time.  And these things affect people in different ways.  Experiences happen, and feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are automatically linked to experiences.

Two people may have each been abused during childhood.  One of them might get it linked up in their mind that "It's my fault, I'm worthless", while another might link up "I'm never going to let this happen again to me or anyone else I know, I'm going to be strong".  Two very different situations derived from the same experience.  So what's the difference?  What causes one person to attach a useful meaning, and another to go through hell?  Who really knows?  And who will ever know?  My questions are "Is it any use to know?  Is there a better way to help?"

A great thing about the mind is that it is a learning machine, if it does something once, it can do it again.  The mind knows how to link experiences to feelings, thoughts, and beliefs; it's done it our whole lives.  This "linking process" can be used in a positive way to effect lasting change.

Take a moment and think of something that happened to you in the past that you would say is negative.  Maybe it makes you feel bad, maybe it makes you say bad things to yourself, or maybe it holds you back from doing things that you want to do.  Wouldn't it be nice to be able to feel neutral about this experience rather than feel bad?  Or maybe even find a way to feel good enough about it to make it useful?

Try this simple exercise:

1.     Think about a negative thing that happened to you, which is still affecting your life now.  

2.     Think about how you'd rather react to it.

3.     Have a think about the following question - "What would it have been handy for me to know and do back then that would have made me go through the situation and come out with the positive reaction?”

4.     Once you have answered this question, close your eyes and in your imagination go back and run through the experience again, but this time running it differently and coming out with the positive reaction.

This simple mental rehearsal exercise can start to change how you think about things, and change your personal history.  An experienced NLP practitioner can guide you through a process to impart more in depth and lasting change.

Richard Lindesay

www.RichardLindesay.com

Richard is a Licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Specialist Practitioner in Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning (NHR) at the Four Barrows Complimentary Health Care Clinic in Aldbourne. 

To book Richard for NLP Life Change and Life Identity Design sessions, email info@richardlindesay.com or contact the Four Barrows clinic.